Instant messaging services across the Internet surely could be effective female simulators. The advent of modern technology is giving dating and flirting a new interface. While the past generations saw men flirting with women through letters, parties, and telephone conversations, these days, many guys are hooking up with prospective women through different and live chat rooms.

The first thing you should remember when using IM to seduce women is to be human enough despite getting impersonal. Your sincerity and candidness would come across the online media. Edit yourself before finally hitting the ‘send’ button. This is one advantage of IM services: you could always be on guard unlike in phone conversations.

Learn to use Webcams to your advantage. You could always put up a show to tease and seduce women online. Unless the woman you are chatting with is just as horny or kinky as you at first, you are best advised to keep your boundaries clear until matters advance to a further stage. Initially, do not be aggressive enough to come to the screen naked, nor even show her your forbidden areas. Many men are, however, doing that, which almost always turns women off. However, if she is a cat that “purrs” to the same tune, then you know you can play along, and gain the most pleasure, excitement and fulfillment out of your virtual experience.

Lastly, learn to use IM services for multitasking. Do not mess up if you are messaging many women at the same time during IM sessions. This form of multitasking is common, although only a few men are good at it.

If she is having a good time with you each time she comes online, then you two may agree to eventually meet up and look for something more…. good luck !

If you aim to catch women’s attention whenever you are online, you have to strive to do differently. You should know by now that most men online are chasing women through the Internet. Experts advise men to instead steal a woman’s frame to secure her attention. How is that done?

You do not need to be a conformist whenever you are in front of the computer, intending to meet and greet women you could later see personally for a date or a hookup. Meeting any woman online does not require you to act according to Internet customs. For instance, you do not have to beg for attention nor should you sound so mushy whenever you are online.

Make Her Curious To Hunt You Down and Leave More Mystery On Your Background
Nobody said men should automatically ask women out when they first meet across the Internet. Doing so would make you seem and sound desperate. Likewise, you should not chat or message her through the IM just to ask for her number. You do not need to call her first, like most other men do. The winning strategy is to change or modify the game rules, by making women intrigued and curious about you. If most men turn mushy and desperate online, why not strive to do differently? You would be surprised at the great results this new approach could bring.

Do you intend to meet, date, and keep a woman who deserves a long-term commitment? If you are already tired and weary of being the merry-go-lucky dater who hangs out and get laid with any type of women, you could be reaching a saturation point whereby you would like to make the most out of your life and do differently.

Finding a woman whom you could keep for life could be difficult, but it is never impossible. Often, men open their eyes to seek women who are physically attractive. To find a good woman who deserves life-long commitment, you should go beyond looking at just the physical attributes. Women with good (but not necessarily drop-dead gorgeous) looks, a great personality, and unique smartness are the type you should introduce to your family, or be marrying.

You could rarely find them in the dating scene or in the party venues where you usually hang out to meet hookups. You could meet such women in church, at the office, in school, in the grocery, in the library, in the museum, and in other unconventional venues for meeting women for dates. Just a piece of advice: to be fair, improve yourself so you could deserve quality women for long-term relationships.

It happens. Many times, you are instantly attracted to a woman who says she already is seeing someone else or is already having a boyfriend. In such instances, you are caught in a dilemma whether you would proceed to dating her or not. You should realize that women tell you they already have a boyfriend because of three reasons: they really do have boyfriends, they want to project a social image, or they just do not like you.

What should you rightfully do when confronted by such a situation? If you really like the woman and you decide that you would pursue her no matter what, then you should hope that it is the second or the third reason (mentioned above). If so, it is just a matter of attracting and seducing her, to make her change her mind and start to like you.

The mindset to have is this, and we have said this many times in this blog: You can never take a woman’s “No” as an answer. She hasn’t known enough about you to make up her mind, or you have not flipped the precise attraction switches that would make her decide she wants to be with you. Therefore, confidence is a trait in those successful ladies men who know they have the ability to make another woman like them, if they just bide for their time, understand a woman well as if they understand the unique conditions about the terrain, and apply their knowledge about their adversary in a manner analogous to using the Art of War’s principles in the field of attracting and seducing a woman.

So, do not act desperately. Never even demand that she drop the other guy so she could be with you. Doing so would only make her come up with a very low impression of you. Just have fun and make her enjoy. Soon, she would discover that you could keep her company and maybe hangout more with you.

Most men go out to bars, at night hoping to meet and bring home a hot woman before the night is over. It should be your goal to meet and flirt with women whom you could be intimate with. Many men could end the night alone due to failure to target the right women. How could you make the right choice and spend time in the bar only with women you could sleep with tonight?

When introducing yourself and getting to know a woman, you should immediately ask her if she is alone or is hanging out with friends. Women who came to the bar alone are more likely to come to your place upon your invitation, that is, if they get instantly attracted to you. It is not advisable to spend time during the night at the bar with a woman who is out with friends. She certainly would have lots of excuses to turn down your invitation to come home with you. By the time the night is over, you might find it is too late to hit with other women because most of the party goers might already have left. Avoid such an instance.

Many men commit the mistake of pushing sex too hard to women. Many women are not comfortable to the idea, especially when they hardly know a man well. You should understand that patience pays off. Of course, most men are after sex in dates and relationships. There are even men who meet with women just to have sex.

If you want to ramp up your image and have a better chance of totally and completely seducing any woman, you should make it a point NOT to push very hard for sex. Enjoy the company of a woman and do not be too aggressive to initiate sex. If she is not receptive to your body language, it is time you decide to keep your cool for some time.

A woman would need to build up trust and comfort with you, as she reins in on her desires, even if there is clear and rising sexual tension. If she gives in to you easily, she will feel sluttish, cheap and promiscuous. A woman wants to know that you are not there just for sex, and will leave her as soon as it is over. She needs that security. Evolutionary reasons guide this mindset. Since the dawn of time, a woman has limited days of producing and releasing an egg every month, and so she has to be very careful over choice of partner she uses for procreation. If a particular partner she mates with leaves, she will have lots of hardships, difficulty and trouble mothering her offspring. For this fact, she has to be very careful and picky in choice of a partner, which also makes sex with any woman in general harder than with a man. A man, on the other hand, has the ability to breed almost at all times, and for him it is also about competition with dominant males for a female to breed with, or his genes will likely be weeded out of existence.

If you understand the above as facts, it would help you get more patient in making any woman you attract feel more comfortable and trusting in you before you proceed to get intimate. As you bide your time, you would be surprised how she could turn around and be the one – instead of you – that initiates sex. It pays to wait, but it could be well worth all your patience and efforts.

Contrary to the evidence on superior sexual prowess, no man has really perfected the art of lovemaking. No man is perfect. Sexually, he may perform excellent today, but his woman’s satisfaction might not be as intense tomorrow. No one could claim not being guilty for some of the most common sexual blunders committed by men.

Men who aim to be consistently great lovers should deal with the following sexual blunders. Moreover, these mistakes should be re-considered and avoided to achieve consistency of superior sexual performance.

1. A perception that foreplay starts with sexual stimulation – Many men are not aware that women are emotional and romantic creatures. Men should realize that the key to a great sexual act is not straight-forward foreplay, but seduction. There is a need to masterfully and manipulatively make a woman have sex with a man. If women love oral sex as a form of foreplay, wait patiently to make her long for it. Before a man should head towards the most erogenous zone, he should learn the art of giving passionate embraces, kissing and fondling. Such activities bolster any woman’s intense feeling and longing to be physically loved.

2. Neglecting the clitoris, missing the G-spot – Most men fall prey to the misconception that penetration is still the best and most certain strategy to bring about Big O. There is a need to refresh Female Anatomy 101. First reviewer lesson: The woman’s main orgasmic trigger is the clitoris. Thus, it should never be ignored during intimate moments. Second reviewer lesson: The G-spot is not mythical. It could be found along the vagina’s front wall, a little lower or higher or more into a side than another. It could take the size of a small pea or a noticeable quarter. Another reminder: men should make sure their women are aroused before making the experimental search.

3. Focusing on self performance, pleasure and techniques – Above all, men should pay attention to the needs and likes of women. Only a few men know that pleasure lies deeply into attaining mutual sexual satisfaction. Sex should be made pleasurable to both parties.

4. An Ignorance about women’s naughtiness – As mentioned, women generally like to start with romance. Once into it, they almost always fantasize to do kinky and naughty acts. During intimacy, women get further aroused by their explicit fantasies, and not many men are aware that women are full of naughty sexual fantasies in their memory banks. The romantic side of them gets toned down and the wilder personality emerges. Men should let women get on and fulfill their fantasies. However, any man should not overdo it and make a woman act like a hot porn star. Porn is just fantasy. Women may still have inhibitions despite libido and it will not be appropriate pushing them to act out their fantasies.

5. Thinking that size is MOST important – The truth is that most women still prefer good performance over size. Most of the time, men fantasize of being porn stars, with all the huge glory of shafts. True enough, huge packages may tend to be novelty, but some women may just feel pain having intercourse with ‘oversized’ men. Average may be enough as long as the stuff works best.

6. Lastly, believing that an orgasm is enough – It is a common knowledge that women are plain multi-orgasmic. They could not be fully sexually satisfied unless they reach two or more orgasms. Men should explore numerous and different ways to make their women explode. Creativity could be the key.

Many men study and adopt traits that women like. However, if you have certain deal-breaking behaviors, these might outweigh your attractive traits.

Dating success does not come easy. You’ve overhauled your wardrobe, upgraded your grooming habits, successfully adopted a bad guy attitude, learned all the right tricks, can talk on a wide variety of topics and listen attentively to women for attitude yet you still experience being passed over by women for the other guy! What is the matter, you ask yourself.

The reason for your disappointment can be most likely due to behavior patterns or personality traits that turn-off women. Analyze your behavior and make the corrections as necessary in order to enjoy the dating scene to the fullest!

Five personality traits that turn women off and you must put right

Perhaps you are trying to come off as confident, but are going too far and coming off as conceited or crude.

1. Never equate self-confidence with arrogance. A very fine line separates self-confidence from arrogance or over-confidence. You have to be aware of this otherwise it can result in your failure to get in on the action. Always be the gentleman but never the overbearing type of person.

Although this may work for women who are completely unsure of themselves it certainly does not work for majority of the women out there. There is no valid excuse to forsake basic courteousness especially when dealing with women. Some women may prefer being treated like dirt but I doubt if you will enjoy the company of such women.

There is no need to brag about yourself, if you’re good, you’re good—it will always come up to the surface and there is no need for doing your own drumbeating! Never fail to be polite and give women the respect they deserve while maintaining a self-confident attitude.

You might be being too stiff, either coming off as over-eager or too shy. Relax, and you can give off a more balanced impression.

2. Refrain from being overly aggressive as it can turn women off, worse it may frighten them away! Establish eye contact but never stare at a woman, more so if the woman is gorgeous looking.

Learn to relax and always put a smile on your face (but don’t grin like an idiot!) so that you will appear disarming despite your eagle eye gaze as you survey the bar or anywhere you happen to be. Make yourself fit in any crowd, be it in a museum, nightclub, book fair or a convention.

Check your body language when you are in completely unfamiliar surroundings. Do you cross your arms, stay in a corner or simply stare at people? If so, then you’re doing it all wrong. Regardless of the situation, familiar or not, you should relax and fit in—this is indicative of your degree of self-confidence, a fact that women notice all the time! Learn how to work a room.

You might be confusing quantity with quality as far as talking goes. Babbling is a common nervous habit. Try to see it is a habit of yours.

3. Do not talk too much! Nervous people tend to talk too much, on the other hand women are naturally talkative! There already is a conflict of interest, sort of. Do not fall prey into this trap, as you would certainly lose whatever brownie points you may have gathered so far!

If you have to talk, then talk…but do it in an interesting manner like you’re telling a story giving only the highlights and not the nitty-gritty details about your life, work, past time and others. Do not ever engage in a Q&A, you are not in a job interview and neither is she!

Draw her out by asking questions and the moment you see an opening, start teasing her comfortably keeping in mind to avoid sexual innuendoes until she starts laughing and feeling at ease.

Do not be intimated by natural silences, instead use it to your advantage by acting as naturally as possible and remember to keep your voice modulated so that she can understand you even if the background is noisy.

Making choices can be difficult, but sometimes you just have to man up, stop dithering, and take the consequences as they come.

4. Women are easily turned off by men’s indecision. They have no respect for men who can’t make a decision on their own but respect those who can, regardless if the decision is wrong!

For women, decisiveness is a big plus factor. It encompasses a whole range of desirable characteristics they are looking for in a man—strength, success potential, self-confidence and the bad guy attitude all package in this one word.

Women can never stand indecision on the part of men because they see this as a sign of weakness. They see decisiveness as a positive dominant attitude but not domineering that they feel suppressed. Taking a stand is a big plus factor when dealing with women, they will ultimately respect you for it. Never be afraid to make mistakes when making your decision, turn it to your advantage by laughing at your expense!

Despite the popularity of brooding vampires and sulky rock stars, emulating such people will only make you seem like bad company.

5. Never allow yourself to get moody the moment you step out of your apartment, leave your moodiness, pessimism and grouchiness behind. Women are naturally attracted to men who are energetic and full of life.

Remember, women easily get attracted to men who lead adventurous and exciting lives but if you happen to be in a bad mood then no matter how exciting your life, your mood sends all the wrong signals to people around you.

Every time you go out, leave your testy mood behind and embrace the world and all its possibilities of good fortune. Always plan to have a good time whenever you go out and take it as a chance to lighten up and have fun. Leave behind any negative baggage or issues you may have, the woman you meet does not deserve to be the garbage bin of your frustrations!

Being attractive to women is not just about having all the required traits on a checklist. It is also about avoiding undesirable behaviors.

If you discover that you are somehow exhibiting any of the above, the best thing you can do is to correct your attitude pronto otherwise all the preparation you’ve gone through will not be worth anything. Dating is very similar to marketing a product, the only difference is that you can rectify your weak points and strengthen them to make yourself even more desirable! Be the man that women enjoy meeting because they get to laugh, relax, enjoy and have a good time.

There is a reason why successful romance novels have the same plot and archetypes: many women have the same ideals, even if they insist otherwise.

Have you ever wondered why women read romance novels? If you have a sister, acquaintance or officemate ask them if they read these types of novels. If they say yes, ask them to give you a brief description of the novel’s hero.

Ninety-nine per cent of the time, they will describe the novel’s hero as one who is good looking in a rugged manner–dominant, authoritative, successful and self-assured. A self-made man who engages in strenuous physical activity to keep fit.

This is the reason most women like to read romance novels–in their mind they fantasize about the hero and that they are the heroine in the novel! And because of the conditioning brought on by reading romance novels, women try to live out their fantasies in the men they would like to have relations with in real life!

This then makes it easier to qualify the six traits and behavior that women are looking for in men:

Use the bad-boy archetype to your advantage. In other words, be Wolverine, not Cyclops, to your Jean.

1. Women have a strong preference for men who personify the ‘bad’ guy—one who is assertive, unconventional and independent. A man with an attitude of aloofness, one who doesn’t beg for acceptance. For women, this kind of man spells superiority, control and authority.

Women may have fantasies about dating leaders and high-fliers, but will still go for someone who looks like he’s headed for success.

2. Success is one characteristic women are always looking for. This does not that the man always needs to be the boss man or the head honcho in the firms he’s working for or even owns the firm—women are realistic, they will settle for a man with the potential to be successful in the future. How do you acquire the traits of a successful person? You dress for success; it’s all about power dressing! Invest in clothes that complement your physical appearance, your clothes do not necessarily have to be signature brands. Your clothes should communicate understated elegance. Women have an eagle eye when it comes to fashion so make sure that your clothes ensemble are complementary and not tasteless.

Try to look like a busy bee instead of a social butterfly, and women will swarm all over you!

3. Men of passion are another of women’s weaknesses. Women equate a man’s passion for work and lack of time to socialize as one of the ultimate turn-on because they see a man driven by ambition. One who has no time to spare for commonplace and frivolous behavior like barhopping! If you elect to develop this profile, make sure that you package yourself as someone who would rather enjoy challenging and strenuous past times other than going to bars or a nightclub. A weekend camping in the mountains, rock climbing, snorkeling or even just riding the mountain bike on the trail are leisure pursuits that seem awesome to women because it is out of the ordinary. It makes them wonder why you would rather not chase them, which arouses their interest in finding out what make you tick!

Giving women what they want means not always giving them what they want. Such is the Tao of Casanova.

4. Learn how to say NO to women! This may seem antithetical but, believe it or not, if you start saying no to women the more they will get attracted to you! Although you’ve most probably been taught to be nice to women all the time, learning to say no to women and making them believe that your world does not revolve around them makes them respect you more. Of course, saying no does not mean simply saying no for the sake of contradicting women, you have to back up your no with a reasonable and logical explanation to make them think twice. Women simply love men who do not bow down to their whims and wishes—they find these kinds of men more challenging and attractive! Women do not like yes men!

Persistence can be your friend. A rejection to your approach does not necessarily mean a rejection of you as a person.

5. Do not accept no from women. Although this is inevitable, accept their no answer or rejection gracefully and with complete indifference. Moreover, don’t simply go away—do like the military does: retreat, regroup, reassess your plan and go on the offensive again using a different approach! With the proper encouragement and enough time, most women will change their mindset about you and completely forget what it was that made them say no in the first place. Women respect men who do not take no for an answer!

Put effort and imagination into your outings. Be willing too off the beaten track, and you will then find the gates thrown open to you.

6. Be unpredictable and impetuous! Women love adventure and they are always eager to be in one. This means that when you invite them on a date, do not settle for the ordinary—take them out canoeing, rafting, or go for a drive in the next county. Avoid the monotonous dinner at the local restaurant no matter how good the food may be, give her something to tell her friends about the following week. Girls go weak at the knees for this stuff! These type of activities fires up their imagination because it remains true to form in the romance novels that they often read!

If you can successfully cultivate these six behavior patterns, you are on your way to having more than a fair share of weekend adventure with women that take your fancy!

Being a good, witty talker can only take you so far, since women can be very picky about others’ words.

Conversation openers that may lead to sexual encounters are highly situational and extremely dependent on the woman and her mood. Although most dating gurus claim that they can put any woman in the right mood for sex, this is totally false. How can you squeeze water from a stone? Not in this lifetime, or even the next, right?

Singles’ establishments make great hookup venues, but it’s also true that not everyone goes home lucky.

However, since most casual encounters between members of the opposite sexes occur in a conducive environment like a bar or a club, getting hitched for the night or the weekend is highly probable since 95% of people who patronize the place are there either for fun, games, to unwind or have casual sexual encounters—if they happen to like one another.

Any male in the hunt for the weekend therefore has a 50-50 chance of scoring on a mark for the night or the weekend. How then do you increase your chances to 75% or more? In this type of environment, knowing what to look for, how to approach women and keep them interested as well as understanding a woman’s body language and non-verbal cues are the keys to your success. As simple as the situation may seem, most men are lost and do not know what to do when flirting with women!

In such environments, understanding the messages sent by a woman’s body is essential to success. Know what she’s thinking about, even if she herself doesn’t know it.

This is why a clear understanding of a woman’s non-verbal cues is very important and a necessity. Body language is a combination of voluntary and involuntary reactions towards a wide range of stimuli such as feelings, words and actions or touch of another person. If you can’t interpret a woman’s body language, she’ll probably just stand up, leave you and you won’t ever realize the reason why! Women send out non-verbal signals to men whom they like so that the man can approach her BUT if you do not know what these signals are, then nothing’s going to happen!

Body language is often more revealing than verbal communication. The good news is that women tend to use the same gestures and body language to mean the same things. Once you learn it, you can apply it everywhere.

Eighty percent of the time, women employ subtle but unmistakable non-verbal cues while talking with men. If you are able to pick up on these non-verbal cues, then before the evening wears on you would have been more successful at building attraction, establishing a connection between you and her and hopefully take her home with you for the night compared to all the other clueless guys!

Non-Verbal Cues to Look For

Women use three types of non-verbal cues to communicate their interest in men. If you are able to pick up and develop these cues correctly then the encounter can definitely lead to a great sexual liaison between the two of you!

Think of her body as a magnet being pulled in the direction of whatever or whoever interests her the most.

Clue No. 1: She either leans or moves towards you whenever she wants to say something or make a point. It is the nature of women to move closer to whatever interests them, regardless of what they are doing. The same behavior pattern holds true when they are in a conversation with men whom they find interesting or attractive. They will lean or move closer towards you to signify a deeper interest in taking things further but will hold back if you do not show any interest. If you are observant and are aware of her body postures during a conversation, you can tell if she’s into you or not.

If she reaches out to you with her hands or facial expression, you’re in luck!

Clue No. 2: The woman initiates physical contact accidentally or during the course of a conversation or by establishing eye contact and holding it for longer than 5 seconds, most often with a smile! If a woman initiates physical contact, it is a positive sign that she’s giving you the motivations to take the moment into a more physical or intimate level. People, women more especially, do not unnecessarily break the physical barrier unless they are attracted to the other person!

She’s probably in the mood if she seems to like your naughty comments. You could be in for a wild night.

Clue No. 3: The last tactic women employ to suggest their attraction to the opposite sex and make them react to their overtures is by responding positively to a man’s sexual innuendoes, jokes and repartees or by making comments along the same line herself! A woman who responds positively and is not offended by sexual topics is either consciously or subconsciously thinking about physical intimacy.

Keep note that although women send these they are very subtle in doing so because they do not want to be branded as cheap or promiscuous. Obvious though the signs may be women anticipate that you will make the initiative to take things to the next level. If you know what to look for, you can easily establish a closer connection and get her number or if you’re really lucky, even go home with her on the same night!