For whatever reason they may have, women are known to test men who try to make overtures to them especially if the man’s motive is personal. The tests begin even from the initial meeting, the first date and even during the relationship stage. Failing any of a woman’s tests almost always leads to the breakup of a relationship. For this reason alone, men must be aware of what and how women conduct their random tests.

To all Casanovas out there: beware of women’s version of “reward and punishment”: the ‘carrot and stick technique’.

These random tests that women give men can be compared to the systematic persuasion methodology of reward and punishment used at home, at work, in school, and almost anywhere else. It is also commonly referred to by laymen as the ‘carrot and stick technique’ to encourage a specific behavior pattern.

The ‘carrot and stick technique’ works by taking advantage of our fear of failure and their rejection.

Women are very good at doing this kind of behavior modification to men maybe because of their emotions or their physical weakness compared to men. Whatever the reason, the tests that women give to men in the course of their association with one another also take advantage of men’s fear of rejection and failure!

Never fear rejection. Look at it as a learning experience towards bigger things in the future for that’s what rejections really are—learning experiences in order to avoid committing the same mistakes in the future. It’s okay to make a mistake, what’s not okay is to commit the same mistake twice or over and over again—that is stupidity!

To be successful in the field of romance and dating, you’ve got to turn tables around and let the woman run after you, Casanova!

Remember, before success there is failure. That’s just the way things work in life. You have to go through a baptism of fire and get things right before success comes into your life. The same holds true in a man-woman relationship.

Do not worry too much about failure; forget the cliché that failure is not an option—that’s only in the movies! Instead of focusing on how much you like to date a particular girl, it should be the other way around: make the girl come after you and like you a lot! As military men say, a good soldier is always willing to die for his country—that may be so but you don’t win wars by dying for your country, you win wars by making the other soldier die for his country!

Women use the ‘carrot and stick technique’ to challenge us, make judgements of us, and trick us into being at their mercy.

When women test men, they judge men by their actions. When women do this regularly, most men usually end up justifying their actions and behaviors, and start explaining things they shouldn’t explain in the first place but by then it’s too late. You are at the mercy of the woman whom you have made into some sort of a headmistress.

You know your woman is testing you if she commands you to do things and treats you badly for no reason.

To test you, a woman may simply ask you to do things for her in an almost imposing and authoritative manner; sometimes she may simply act bitchy for no reason at all just because she feels like being one at the moment.

Be wary, once you let your guard down and let a girl have her way on you, you’re on your way to being her slave!

These types of tests are so well crafted and have evolved dramatically but they are all deliberately designed in such a way as to determine whether you would allow them to take advantage of your goodness because men naturally cozy up to women. When you fall for this kind of surprise attack, she will undoubtedly begin stepping on you every chance she gets!

Get your act together by showing her that you’re a real man: Be dominant and let her know it’s your call.

To counter this maneuver most women are wont to do most of the time, men should play women in their own game by putting off what the woman requests. He does this calmly and diplomatically.

Although being a nice guy gets you brownie points, impressing and attracting women with your emotional strength and self-confidence is much more effective than kowtowing to them.

These type of women fall under two categories: one whom you should avoid, and another whom you should play the game with.

Women like to engage in these testing games and you have to determine the type of woman you’re with in order to determine why they’re doing what they’re doing. There are basically two categories under which women fall under when it comes to testing men.

A woman who puts men through tests by making eccentric requests is one who simply loves to test guys for the fun of it. More than likely, these women have unresolved emotional baggage. It is best to stay away from them.

On the other hand, someone who likes to test guys once in a while is one who’s on a fishing expedition trying to find out if she can manipulate you. To handle this type of women, you can let her know in a joking manner that you know what she’s doing and you can start messing with her mind and even try to turn the tables around.

The best way to handle test-y women is by not giving her a direct answer to her questions or requests to establish that you are not someone to be played games with. Ignoring this woman’s game is one way of establishing your status as higher than hers—something which women want all the time!

All is fair in love and war—this includes any dating strategy that you can put to good use in order to have an advantage and overcome the defenses of women.

Meeting (and picking up) women in a bar or nightclub on a weekend gives you an undue advantage even before you step inside the dimly lit and noisy ambience of the hottest bar or nightclub in town. There are obvious ways that you can use alcohol to your advantage.

Women Dig The Feeling Of Security, and Because of This, They Admire Very Confident Men. You Could Use A Drink Or Two to Help You Out On This.

If you are relatively new and just starting out in the dating game, having a drink can help boost your confidence, and make you act cool and smooth. However, you should take extra care that you do not have too many drinks as you may get drunk: you just need two or three drinks to make you loosen up without being overly talkative.

Once You’ve Loosened Up, It’s Time To Stop and Start Waiting On The Girls To Loosen Up Too.

If you are still timid about going up and approaching women, having a drink will take care of your problem, that’s without a doubt! You can dance with confidence and your moves will look loose and smooth—women will see you as a cool dancer, although your moves may seem quite unorthodox. With your level of confidence bumped up a notch or two, women will definitely feel your new manly attitude.

Getting Just A Bit Un-inhibited Is Your Goal. Losing Your Cool Is A Big No-No, So Leave It To The Girls To Do That.

Drink just enough to make you relax. The objective is to be cool and not to be drunk and un-cool! If you appear a little bit tipsy around a female or her group of friends that you’re sharing experiences with, they are more likely to accept passes but don’t overdo it. It is never advisable to get sloppy in front of a woman; however, it’s okay if she is, then you can join in and have fun together. Never be drunk regardless if the woman you are with is, as you will lose control of the situation. Keep in mind that liquor will more likely than not put her in the right mood to go home with you than beer.

Stay On The Safe Side by Letting Your Date Know when She Seems To Be Getting Drunk or When She Already Is.

If your date gets drunk, it is your obligation to always let her know what you are doing—this is a sign of respect and also to remind her later that you were always reminding her about the situation. Whatever happens, she will remember albeit vaguely that you have kept on reminding her of her condition.

Take Total Control Of The Situation; Show Her You Are A Real Man, A Strong Casanova.

When you and your date are having a great time, never reveal what you wouldn’t when you are sober. You have to show her who’s the boss; this means you have to be in control and tell her everything to do. Don’t let her tell you every thing to do.

Drink Just Some to Let Go of Your Inhibitions, but Never Let Yourself Lose It, or You Might Not Even Catch Her Lose Hers.

No matter what you’re doing, be really into it and just have fun. If she’s not putty in your hands, get her to drink a little more.

Get Just A Little Help from Some Booze; Too Much Of Anything is Always Bad, and In Fact, is A Major Turn-off For Many Women.

Use alcohol to push you to go up to girls you thought you never had a chance with. You will definitely succeed if you keep trying, even with the most beautiful women. But remember, never get drunk to the point where you won’t be able to think of how to seduce any particular woman.

There seems to be an unspoken reality as to why women would rather date men who are considered bad boys at the same time they would like to marry nice guys. This seems to be a case of wanting to have their cakes and eat it too which men see as being totally unfair.

Psychiatrists put forward the theory that because women are taught from birth and are conditioned to behave and to be prim and proper, they seek out the bad boys of the opposite sex in order to release their pent-up emotions with them since they are only a temporary part of their lives.

Women’s Strong Attraction to Men Who Exhibit Bad Boy Types of Behavior Is Normal and Natural!

Personally, I don’t subscribe to this theory of guilt and lust projection. I firmly believe that this phenomenon of women falling like mad for men with bad guy attitudes is triggered by the most basic of instincts that reside in all human beings—self-preservation, survival of the fittest, the so-called alpha male behavior!

For all of today’s technological advancement, one thing remains constant and true—only the fittest survive and win. And in the dating game, who are these survivors and winners? They are the men who are strong, self-confident, independent, sexy—they are the bad boys that women seek. But what about the nice men they marry? They are the ones who have learned how to combine the best of both worlds, the good and the bad in order to get what they want!

Quite interesting, is it not? If you analyze the situation closely, you’ll see that the behavior of females species liking the strong ones of the male species is not limited to humans alone; it is very evident among all of the species that belong to the animal kingdom! The phenomenon is actually natural, biological and evolutionary. The reason women are turned on emotionally and sexually by men who exhibit the bad boy attitude is basically to ensure the preservation of their genetic line! For who else can essentially guarantee self-preservation except the strong? Therefore, it not accidental that women are consciously or subconsciously attracted to men who display the bad boy traits of being strong, reliable and independent!

Essentially, Nothing Has Really Changed Since the Dawn of Time When It Comes to Man and Woman Interaction

No matter how liberated women claim they are or how they should be treated as the equal of men in all respects, there is one particular area where evolution has not really caught up—women’s attraction for the alpha male is still rooted and solidly remains in the gut level zone! This is the way it was since pre-historic times and remains true to the present!

You don’t believe me? Just take a look at a few of the reasons why women go week-kneed in front of men who exhibit the following character traits:

 feels superior and confident
 indifferent to a woman’s emotions
 unconventional and independent
 unpredictable personality
 open display of masculine sexuality
 treats women like second-class citizens

You’re right when you say that the above are ALL negative and repulsive character traits, yet women get attracted to men who exhibit these traits in one way or another! Nevertheless, logic says that no sane woman would clearly want and choose to be abused, right? How can this be? There must be something we have overlooked that explains why women get attracted to bad boys to get them really excited and knowingly throw logic out of the window!

Just try exhibiting any of the above attitude when you approach any woman and you’ll be very lucky if all you get is the cold-shoulder treatment at the very least; you may even be setting yourself up for an embarrassing public reprimand or telling-off!

The situation gets more complicated and tortuous when you ask a woman what type of man she’s looking for. In all likelihood, she’ll say that she’s waiting for a man who’ll treat her like a lady and who has a sense of humor. You’d think you already have a better chance because you’ve got those traits only to find out the next minute that she’s fell for this macho jerk she met in the bar! What gives?

Men Completely Fail to Notice Very Important Factors That Spell the Difference Between Failure and Success in the Dating Game

Women Get Attracted to Men on a Purely Elemental and Emotional Level.

The most common denominator of the bad boy type is their wild and natural display of masculinity. The manner of women’s response to this is at the most basic level of human instinct—a gut reaction of reciprocal feminine display just like a man’s normal reaction to a woman’s physical beauty!

The same type of elemental reaction holds true when it comes to a bad boy’s blatant display of self-confidence and independence. Women react to these two traits as if they are aphrodisiacs triggering even more gut level reactions of attraction and desire!

Gut or instinctive reactions to masculinity make women unaware of anything else that may take away from their feminine reaction to masculinity!

Learn Bad Boy Traits and Spin Them to Your Advantage.

Do not be overly nice and at the same time, refrain from being overly bad! Enjoy the best of both worlds by learning what it takes to become a bad boy and using these same traits to your advantage.

You don’t necessarily have to become bad to be bad, take comfort that you can maintain the genteel side of your personality while still being a maverick in the eyes of opposite sex!

Depending on the type of women you meet on any given day, you have the option of being a bad guy, a nice guy or the deadlier combination of the two!

A Poker-Faced Attitude Can Do Wonders to Your Dating Life.

As much as possible, you have to hold your horses and maintain a poker-faced attitude—cold and calculating on the outside but not on the inside! Men who are in control of their emotions are considered by women as a very rare breed, the type of men women go after relentlessly.

Unlike nice guys who give a free rein to their emotions at the slightest provocation whom women perceive as either emotionally unstable or one with a trying hard complex, bad guys who can chill out regardless of the situation are looked upon as emotionally strong, stable and mature!

A cold and clinical façade is equated often with unpredictability, which makes men who are such more desirable to women!

Put on the I-Couldn’t-Care-Less Mask to Ignite Attraction from Hot Women!

Hot-looking and sexy women are used to getting all the attention they can handle for one simple reason, they are hot and they are aware of it! However, you can use this to their advantage if you simply do not pay them any attention or simply look through them as if they are clear glass!

Nothing would drive them nuttier than this because they are so used to getting deferred to when all of a sudden you come along and pay them no mind at all! They’d probably think you’re nuts or something but not if you know how to do it in style.

Talk to them and then ignore them purposely the next moment! This would automatically (instinctively rather) make them wonder what’s wrong with them and at the same time why they have no effect on you. Guess what would happen next? They’d go out of their way to find out and pursue you because no one simply brushes them off. You are now a challenge and they have to have you or bust!

Dance Only to Your Own Tune, All The Others Don’t Matter!

Women regularly test men to determine how far they can go! This is normal and acceptable that men have learned to go along with these female tests like sheep. The truth of the matter is as a real man, you don’t have to agree let alone allow women to subject you to these tests that they conduct on men.

In fact, the moment you discover they are trying to test you, you should call their attention to it and call their bluff to make them their childish behavior! You have to emphasize that you have the choice to agree or disagree with women, and that it is up to you which one to choose not them!

This is another strong attraction factor that men completely miss out on; they think it’s cool to always agree with women whereas women think that it is not because they see wimps instead of masculinity!

Getting in on a woman’s funny side requires a strategic use of humor. Being funny in this instance is not synonymous with being goofy otherwise you’ll end up as the butt of jokes let alone look like an idiot! This is not what you want to happen.

A lot of people have probably counseled you to use humor as one of the seduction tricks you need to employ to succeed in the dating game. You may have even decided to pay a visit to your favorite bookstore to buy some funny books or joke books. However, this is not what you need to do to make use of humor as a seduction tool successfully. When talking or interacting with women, you need to be able to generate attraction, make a woman feel safe with you, introduce sexual overtones without making a total jerk out of yourself, make her laugh and not earn a bad rep as a clown. These are the things you need to accomplish using humor as a seduction tool; you need to be witty and brash at the same time without going overboard!

Do you think you can do it and not make a fool of yourself? Here are the things you need to accomplish, what you need to be aware of and some tips on how to get things done the right way, witty and brash-y just the way women love it!

Be Brash-y And Witty At The Same Time, You Can’t Be One Without The Other!

Your goal is not simply to make women laugh; it is to make them feel attracted to you as a person, as a man, as a stud because you can make them laugh—when you want to! You can’t simply exude swagger and expect a woman to fall head over heels, you have to make her laugh as well at your jokes and sexual overtures, which is why a fusion of the two is necessary, one without the other is basically useless. Hot, desirable women are logically attracted to A-list males (read arrogant and self-confident) and they normally do not mingle with pretenders. By being arrogant yet funny at the same time, you automatically do not belong to the jerk class because you have what it takes to make a woman laugh, when you want to!

Mess With Her Mind Back and Forth To Excite Her

The art of messing with someone’s mind is mostly fun at times but when the woman you’re messing with is not completely sure that you are messing with her, it becomes even better and more exciting! Men do not normally mess with women’s minds because they may overreact which is why you need to switch between messing and joking and being serious all in a 1-2-3 cadence in order to keep her on her toes and excited!

The most important thing is to be able to switch modes and not stay on one particular mode longer than necessary. When you get a woman on her toes, you get her interested as well like hell!

Treat Her As If She’s One of the Guys And Bust Her Balls In The Process!

You can raise the attraction level with a woman if you start out to treat her like one of the guys and then bust her balls—just like she’s one of your close buddies! This is one way of establishing a seemingly harmless and joking style of teasing her by calling her names and mocking her like she’s an old buddy of yours. This sets the stage to let her see your sense of humor in an innocuous and safe manner even if you employ sexual overtones because you are treating her like she’s one of the guys! How can she get offended by that?

Add Some Body Language And Choreography Whenever You Can

To carry off you brash and witty conduct, you must accentuate and reinforce it with body movements, facial expressions, gestures, including a range of tonal and sound options with your voice. Playfully touch her or hold her arms, make faces at her, breather at her nape, the things you can do are literally endless. The secret is not to be childish or being advantageous when you’re being physically playful with her.

When You’re Trying To Make Her Laugh, Never Laugh Before She Does!

If you’re a newbie, chances are you’ll probably laugh before she does when you’re trying to make her laugh—this will certainly make everything you’ve done amount to zilch! If you’re going to be an A-lister when it comes to seducing women, one of the things you should never forget it that people usually laugh when they are seeking approval from somebody else NOT as a response to something that is funny!

Make her be the one to seek your approval, hold off on your funny bone and freeze it for the moment. Never laugh just to make a woman laugh. Make her realize that she’s dealing with an A-list guy by not laughing. By holding off your laughter, you are actually telling her that you do not need her approval; this will make her know that she’s dealing with a high status male. Her subconscious will automatically make her laugh as a response to seek your approval instead!

Push The Envelope’s Limits Slowly But Surely Every Chance You Get

The whole point of being brash-y and witty is to make things easier for you and the woman you’re hitting on to loosen up. However, the right moves are up to you and not her. You have to be aware and attentive when your swaggering and funny tactics begin to take effect, that’s the time you start pushing the limits farther and farther.

When you notice that women begin reacting positively to your tactics, it’s the right time to turn on the heat. Begin by slowly teasing her with a barrage of playful holds, hugs and word plays as teasingly and mischievously as you can. Establishing physical contact and getting rid of the barrier as early as possible is the best way to achieve your goal of intimacy.

Mistakes You Shouldn’t Commit And Should Avoid At All Costs!

Just like any seduction tactics, refrain from overuse of the swagger/witty tactic otherwise you may get carried away and defeat the whole purpose. You certainly do not want her to see you as a dork. Too much of anything is never good, so just do your thing in moderation.

The best way not to overdo your technique is to make sure that you have other tricks up your sleeve. There is no one sure-fire way you can employ to seduce women successfully. It’s the biggest and costliest mistake you can make to assume that there is such a thing as one specific technique that will work with any woman all of the time.

Together with your arrogance and witty attitude, you should also hone your self-confidence, listening skills, calculated bad guy attitude and behavior, and body language techniques in order to be able to successfully present yourself as the TOTAL attraction package women are searching for! The use or deployment of all of these techniques (singly, in combination or all at the same time) will surely make your dating life a lot more exciting. When all comes naturally, the time will come when you don’t even have to do anything to attract women; they will gravitate towards you because you have defined yourself as an A-lister or high status male!

Gone are the days when the clean-cut, decent and most polite men dominate the dating game. In the past, and more so today, women are almost always thrilled to be hanging out (read: dating) with the not-so-ordinary and gutsy men, who will more likely break the rules and the norms just to be always in control.

For quite some time, psychologists, researchers and sociologists have been closely studying the phenomenal appeal of ‘bad boys’ to women. Many parents are worried that their daughters will soon fall to such men, who are so tough, yet to charismatic to women despite their roughness. The Pamela Andersons and the Paris Hiltons logically and obviously will always fall for bad boys than for the Bill Gates and the Pope Benedicts. Where could such attraction come from? Why are bad boys, despite having fewer likely characters as nice guys, harder to resist?

Bad boys seem to have distinct personality that naturally lures more women. The rough spirit, the edge and the sarcasm oozing in such men seem to make wonders. Here are several observable factors that are believed to make the bad boy image click, especially when men hit on women.

There is Something About the Look

Many women assert that there is definitely something alluring about unshaven moustache, uncombed hair, rugged clothing and tough stance. The look of a bad boy surely sets the mood. Looking certainly less than crisp could most of the time work to any man’s advantage. The visual impression is so powerful, that bad boys are almost always getting the edge. Bad boys look wild, uncaring, playful and relentless. Amazingly, numerous women fantasize such men.

You do not need to feel and look like an alpha male to get that rugged, bad boy look. Just exude the right confidence and look as if you are unafraid of anything. Being a little playful on the look could also be effective. The traditional cowboy look is always a hit. A good leather jacket will surely be an effective accessory, giving the impression as if you jumped out of an action flick. Ladies out there almost always find leather in men sexy.

Bad boys’ Ways and Attitudes Impress

If you have been nice and wholesome all your life, it may be the best time you be something else. Adopt the ‘devil-may-care’ attitude so you could effectively exude intensity and at the same time coziness. Strive to talk to a woman on the basis that she interests you. How could you do that? Throw insights right to her soul, instead of focusing on small and insignificant talks.

Women almost always fall for bad boys who hint of danger, not necessarily in a fatal way, but more on being uncaring about potential consequences of rudeness and roughness of manners. When talking to a lady (and seducing her), look right to her eyes, without winking. Do not be the first to look away first, unless a segment of a conversation is through. When into conversations, always go straight to the point.

Bad boys Have a Unique Rebel Appeal

Rebels are known to be free-spirited, doing anything they like. Many women like their men independent, uncaring about others’ opinions and dominant. Rebels care less about time. They will always splurge in fun no matter what rules they break. Most importantly, women feel the rebellious character makes bad boys very real. Such men are perceived to take their own destiny, to defy the convention and to act in a way befitting his path. That defines sexiness to many.

Bad boys Hardly Get Intimidated

Many women, especially those with strong personalities, know how to intimidate men. Bad boys are different because they do not seem to get intimidated at all by any woman. Bad boys are almost always able to carry themselves well especially when women get annoying, inquisitive, interrogative and threatening. You should be the bad boy who does not succumb to fear, especially the type brought about or hurled by a prospective bedmate.

Be as Mysterious as You Could Be

Bad boys are mysterious in many ways. A good seduction strategy is to keep her guessing. When conversing with a prospect, do not give away important details about yourself so easily. Women like to play games. They will be thrilled to take strategies in unveiling what they are interested to know. In the conventional world, men are born to talk less and women to talk more. If you could only remember that, for sure you will not have a hard time keeping women’s interest in you. Intrigue her, thrill her.

Use Extraordinary Sense of Attraction

Funny, but did you know that in some cultures, many men are already doing odd things just to be bad boys? In some nations in Europe, many men do not bathe for a few days to attract women. In Japan, some men spend hours to make their hair appear disheveled. Have you ever wondered why rock stars almost always succeed in making many women scream in admiration? It could be the animalistic appeal.