Some elementary battle psychology in the war of the sexes: why are those defenses there in the first place?

Women regularly employ screens, shields or defenses against men for a number of reasons. These can include dislike, pretense or just playing hard to get and even a combination of everything for a very simple reason. They are aware of their desirability and they take pleasure in making men work for what they want.

Trying to list the various types of defenses a woman can put up is an exercise in futility as they can use any reason at all ranging from their cat is not feeling well to the weather and the position of the planets and anything else in between!

It is better to go fight in Iraq or Afghanistan where you know the type of defenses you will go up against rather than against a woman who has made up her mind to say no and make your life miserable even before you two meet one another.

Think of confidence as the Casanova’s skeleton key through the locked door of a woman’s defenses.

What does a man need to do to be prepared at all times? Follow Sun Tzu’s advice in the book called The Art of War, ‘know your adversary and know yourself and you can fight a hundred battles without disaster.’

Know What Women Want

No matter what everybody else says, there is only one type of man that women go head over heels for – these are the men who are confident regardless of what they wear and their physical appearance.

Between Casanovas, let’s go beyond the cliché. Why is confidence so important in approaching women?

Confidence is by far the most under-utilized and overlooked but very important aspect of getting any girl you want because without self-confidence, you have nothing! Confidence is the strongest foundation any man needs to successfully attract any woman and to make any other seduction techniques to work. A confident man can do wonders as he sets his sights on finding the perfect partner for himself or even just dating the most desirable female in a bar.

Here is a brief check list so you can make sure you’re firing on all cylinders.

 Never make your self dependent on any woman’s acceptance or rejection. Otherwise, you will become tense when you talk to them.

 Do not fear rejection because you have EVERYTHING TO GAIN but NOTHING TO LOSE. Consider rejection as part of learning and growing from every experience.

 When talking to women make sure that you smile, give them compliments and tell a joke or two. Eventually you will be able to automatically say the things that you want and get what you want without breaking a sweat.

 Never hesitate, act quickly and smartly and don’t think about what you are doing. The more you think about doing what you need to do, the less likely that you are going to do it, and you will fumble!

 Practice by approaching as many women as you can in any situation. Say whatever comes to mind and pay careful attention to the responses you get. Analyze your approach and study how you can improve. If it doesn’t work out the first few times, go up to another woman and try again.

Casanovas go through the looking-glass: a glimpse at how women view and assess potential partners

A common misconception among men is that they think that women think the same as men when it comes to attraction with the opposite sex. Men are more concerned with physical looks whereas women are more focused on emotions and feelings of security.

However, there are some common characteristics women across the world find attractive in men, height, a well-toned body and good posture. Psychologists say that the reason behind this is because these characteristics are indicators of strength, confidence and power. There is another equally important factor that can make a man to appear more attractive to women. Familiarity makes a person more attractive. Coupled with similarity, the combination is unbeatable since the more similar a person is to ourselves when it comes to beliefs and values, the more likely we will like that person.

Know when to let go of a battle, but do not give up on the war.

No matter how often you’ve been rejected in the past, put it behind you. Keep an experimental attitude to see what works and what doesn’t. Approach whoever takes your fancy, and don’t fall prey to rejection or their pretenses.

Use what you know of body language to make it easier to approach women. Before you approach a woman next time, send out feelers first. Give her a chance to notice you first then see if she responds. One way to do this is to walk directly past her line of sight or to start talking to someone standing near her. See if she notices you. If you catch one of her friends glancing your way, then use the diversion to approach the entire group and talk to everyone.

Common ground makes a woman a much easier target for your advances. Learn to spot and exploit it.

It’s a lot harder to pick up a girl cold than to meet a girl on familiar turf. If you already have something in common with a girl, like mutual friends, a common hangout, or playing on the same team, then getting to know her will be much easier, because she’s already accepted your status as an acquaintance.

Do not let your own guard down, either. Be ready to always bring your A-game on dates.

There is only one reason why men and women go out on dates and that is to get to know each other better, to ascertain if the other person is the ‘right’ one, and ultimately, to get more intimate with each other.

Being at your best regardless of the place or time is one of the most often overlooked factors men are prone to commit time and again. You should always be aware and conscious of the fact that when you are with women, you are on center stage! This may seem funny but this is the truth! How you handle yourself can spell the difference between the start of a mutually healthy and satisfying relationship or one that is destined to fizzle out!

The first impression always lasts which is why you should be conscious and aware of having your best foot forward all the time and avoid costly, disastrous mistakes.

There is no magic formula or secret potion that you can use to your advantage. However, the abovementioned commonly overlooked facts can greatly add to your success with women even if you are not the athletic-type, muscle-bound male most women have stereotyped in their dreams!