To Be a Winner You First Have To Keep Losing

April 25, 2010 in | Casanova Confidence |, | Casanova Dating and Attraction Techniques |, | Casanova Inner Game Tips | by Casanova System

To put things in perspective for you if you are still hurt after a rejection, take a look at these most incredible rejections ever:

* The head honcho of Warner Brothers movie studios famously derided the idea of ‘talkies’ saying “No one would ever want to hear movie actors talk.”

*The New York Times rejected the idea of television completely. It was written off by them as never appealing to the average American family.

*Most everyone rejected their invitation to witness one of mankind’s most historic events ever – the Wright brothers’ first flight in their flying machine. Just five people turned up to watch.

Learn to Accept Rejections In Life, Including In Your Dating Life, armed with the knowledge that by Staying In The Game, You’ll Eventually Win.

The best kept secret of Don Juans and Casanovas who win is that in order to be successful, first you have to keep losing. Remember you have to be in the game to win it; giving up to retreat and then lick your wounds is not the habit of a successful Casanova.

If you quit, you are guaranteeing your own failure. Success could be just around the corner. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and try again.

The biggest tip to overcome rejection is to decide that you will not take it personally. Deal with it objectively and you will get over it and move on.

Learn the following tips from the seasoned Don Juans to help you adjust and realise that all is not lost …

Every Successful Don Juan or Casanova has Learned Sometime Along His Dating Life When To Quit and When To Pursue A New Target.

Whilst you should not take every rejection personally, you also need to know when to persevere with the target and when to move on.

However, if you are sure she is not trying to test you or play mind games with you, then it is time to let go and hang onto your self-respect at all costs.

In the Same Way that Not Every Hot Girl Automatically Gets Into Your Target List, you have to Accept That Some Girls Will Never Be Interested In You.

Understand that there is nothing wrong with you; it is just that not every chick is going to be turned on by your combination of character and looks. It is a blow even to seasoned Don Juans when someone says to you “Thanks, but no thanks”.

Accept the highs of dating, along with the lows. You have to learn from your rejections, and realise you are not everyone’s preference, but there are thousands of chicks out there that would kill to date a guy like you.

It may seem like a raw spot now, but time will make it less painful, especially if you do not over-think every move. Sure, analyse your play but don’t end up falling on your own sword. Use it as a learning experience and move on to your next target.

Take It from the Veteran Don Juans or Casanovas who have long accepted that Saving A Man’s Self-Esteem Is More Important Than Trying To Hold On To An Unworthy Girl.

If the person you are dating decides they want to take a break, and you are sure that it is not some kind of test or mind game, then it is best for everyone (including you) to let them go. Even if you think it is a huge mistake on their part, you owe it to your self-esteem not to plead beg or whine. Try to hold onto your dignity at all costs.

When the initial wound has started to heal (which I guarantee you, it will) you will be glad that you held onto your self-respect and simply let go at the appropriate time.

After this phase has passed, you will move on to feel pity for the person who was so shortsighted as to have rejected you. The way to view it is that ultimately it is their loss and not yours.

Use your Experience to Assess What You Need To Improve On, and if there is none, seek to Find The Other Women Who Would Love To Have You.

The next step on the road to recovering from rejection is to analyse objectively why the rejection happened. If you can see that your game plan needs modifying after this rejection, then the rejection was worth it, since your game will be a success with some minor adjustments.

If you decide there was nothing wrong with the way you handled things, and do not think that changing your plan would have made a difference, then maybe it is time to look for new places where chicks who are more appreciative of your assets hang out.

Like many aspect of life, dating is a numbers game. You have to endure a certain number of rejections before you score. Take the long view and see that in accepting rejection you are taking yourself one step closer to sweet success and acceptance of your next score.

If You Want to Master The Art Of Dating and Seduction, you first have to muster the courage and Master Your Own EMOTIONS And Thinking.

According to experts, one of the most common fears among humans is rejection. The fear of rejection can stop you from trying again. It can impede your daily progress and ruin your life – if you allow it to.

The point to remember is that the fear of rejection is not something tangible. It is something you can entirely change in your mind – it is an emotion.

The fear only exists in our head, and you need to remember that only you are the master of your emotions. It is up to you to re-train your mind to accept the odd rejection as a part of the learning curve towards scoring more often and becoming a true Don Juan or Casanova.

Prepare to Win in The Dating Game by Refocusing your thinking into how Small that Rejection is Compared To The Winnings You’ll Be Having In A Short While.

Train your mind to accept what appears like rejection as merely another step towards success. Instead of blowing a rejection out of context and anguishing over every word and move, simply imagine that you are looking at the whole thing through a very strong telescope.

Then turn the viewfinder so that the image becomes smaller and smaller. This represents the impact that this rejection has upon you. Realise that the effect this trifling rejection has had upon you is getting smaller and smaller, and becoming less and less significant in your mind.

If you perceive the impact to be small, then it will be small. If you do not allow it throw you off track, it will not. By mentally attuning yourself to the fact that you are immune to negative feelings about rejection, you are setting yourself up to win.

The seasoned Don Juans’ final thought on this subject, and one that you should take to heart, is to remember that winners lose more than losers lose. To be a winner you first have to keep losing for a while.

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