Our lives today are busier than ever. We have never been so connected – but at the same time so alone.
When did you last chat with your neighbors? Would you even recognize them? When did you last speak to someone in an elevator? Our world today is so manic and ‘online’ that many of us forget how to make and maintain contact with real people.
If you want to improve your Social Prowess, then you need to get off the computer and get out into the real world. Learn some of the subtle subliminal skills given here to really watch your social status sizzle.
To Maintain a Great Social Reputation, You Should Learn to Make The Right Decisions In The Blink Of An Eye.
Fitting in with a new group and getting people to like you wherever you are calls for the ability to assess a situation almost instantly and to think on your feet. These skills don’t come naturally to everyone, but they can be mastered with time and effort and the use of techniques that date back centuries.
There are some specific techniques, including powerful tactics that work at a subconscious level, which you can use to win friends and be accepted into any social circle you desire.
Follow these simple but subtle strategies to develop your social prowess and to ignite your social power…
You’ll Be Surprised with How Easy It Is to Make All the Ladies Invite You to Every Rendezvous in Town.
You’ve had a hard day; the last thing you feel like doing is putting all that effort in to going out socially. But saying ‘No’ too many times can cause the invitations to stop.
You will become known as that guy who can’t be bothered to make the effort, who is too lazy. They just won’t bother asking after awhile.
But the reverse is also true. Accept every invite, no matter how exhausted you are, even if you think it will be boring, make the effort and go. You just never know who you will meet. Things in life have a habit of happening at times when we least expect them to.
To be the Master of Social Prowess, Dating, and Everything Else, keep Doing It Until It Feels Like You’ve Been Doing It Forever.
You may feel that saying yes and smiling when all you really want is an early night is fake and contrived, and it may feel that way to start with. But once you put your mind to it and become pro-active at initiating conversations, it will seem like you have been doing it forever.
Watch out for the snowball effect in the opposite way – you may just run out of hours in the day to cram in all the invites from people who have heard you are a fun guy to be around, who attracts all the hotties to any gathering.
If You Wish to be a Don Juan or Casanova, you must Make Friends With All People, Whatever Their Gender Or Background.
If increasing your circle of friends is something that seems like climbing a mountain to you right now, then this is the way to tackle it. Step by step.
Instead of going out and looking for lifelong buddies, or the love of your life, start developing a circle of friends to simply ‘hang out’ with. Get to know other people without the burden of huge expectations.
Take things slowly and gradually get acquainted without the pressure of dating. Make friends with people of both sexes, and the dating side of things will automatically follow. As a new friend, you will have access to friends of friends, and that again increases your social value and may include several attractive women.
Build Your Body, as well as Your List Of Targets, by Getting Out and Joining More Social Activities.
Taking the time and effort to mix with real people socially has potentially huge rewards. From your new circle of friends, you could well be introduced to someone with whom you have an instant rapport or even that someone who turns out to become a very special person in your life.
Ways of making friends and increasing your circle of real people that are easy include signing up for a membership at the local gym or health spa. This will have the extra benefit of getting you out of the house as well as helping you get back into shape.
Simple topics for conversation openers include asking people about using a certain exercise machine, or enquiring how they stay in such great shape.
Include in your Every Destination the Goal of Meeting A New Person; Prepare for This by Knowing Interesting Topics to Discuss Beforehand.
Another strategy to build your confidence is just to get out of the house and away from your computer. Go mall walking, take a stroll in the park, or visit a library or a museum. These are simple but potent strategies.
Make a point of talking to at least one person in every place you visit. Even making a comment about the weather, or asking a question about a piece of art, can lead to interesting conversations.
If nothing else works then these simple steps on the road to recovering your social status and building upon it will build your self-confidence and force you out of the rut you have fallen into. These strategies will also help you stop seeing yourself as a friendless loser who hangs around home all the time.
Hanging Out in The Right Places will Help You Get Back On The Road as a Popular Don Juan or Casanova.
If you have become so reclusive, computer-oriented, and are generally shy around real people and just not used to mixing socially anymore, it is time to get back into the scene.
To start with, go to places where other people with similar interests to your own hang out. You will find it easier to make friends and acquaintances when you know that the people you are with already share a mutual interest.
There are plenty of chances to do this, from chatting with other supporters at your local ballgame, to going back to school part-time to improve your professional skills.
Incorporating ‘Trigger Words’ into Innocuous Daily Conversations is An Art that Any Casanova- or Don Juan-Wannabe could Learn to Hone His Craft.
The subliminal use of trigger words is a powerful tool that has been used for centuries by those with morals and those without, including all kinds of priests.
The trick is to use provocative words in an innocent way. If the target of your chat is halfway literate, and no matter how attractive or beautiful you are, they will ignite a subconscious fire. This technique does involve some background work, selecting the words you are going to use, checking their meaning and memorizing them, so you can slip them into seemingly innocent chat.
Make The Ladies Come To You by Mastering How To INNOCENTLY Include Double-Meaning Words Into Normal-Day Conversations.
An example of a ‘trigger word’ which you may want to use while chatting to a hottie is the seemingly innocent word ‘come’. Use this word repeatedly in sentences that are slightly implying an innuendo for maximum effect. For example, when inviting the lady to sit down on the sofa beside you, you could murmur “Come – sit beside me so we can chat”. Or perhaps “What makes you come to places like this? Why is golf so appealing to you?”
Practise makes perfect your skill of making ladies ‘come’ to you—you’ll know you’re on track if you can make them laugh.
Subliminal messages like this work at a subconscious level and may invoke a giggle as an acknowledgement of your slightly provocative statement. Making people feel happy enough to laugh is the aim here – as master practitioners of this arcane skill know how to manipulate words to their advantage.
Make Every Occasion to Meet People a Learning Opportunity To Help You On The Road to Eventually Becoming A Certified Don Juan or Casanova.
Cultivating your social prowess is essential. Keep practicing your social skills whenever the chance presents itself so that they come easy and you are not tongue-tied when you meet someone new you whom would like to get to know better.
Whatever the chat is about, keep it positive and smile now and again. Slip in the odd ‘trigger word’ to work for you on their subconscious mind. Remember to maintain eye contact while doing this. But when initiating new conversations, do remember that listening is just as important.
Friendships involve give and take and your ears are a very valuable asset when building your social reputation and value.
It’s Time to Take Advantage of This Age of Quick Communication And High Technology to Increase Your Circle Of Potential Dates.
The number of single adults is on the increase. People are marrying later, divorcing more frequently and women are following their own careers for longer.
The number of people from which to expand your social circle has never been larger. The suffocating rules of etiquette from the past have dropped away and now everyone is available to everyone else. Most everyone is connected.
Staying home and becoming best friends with your computer will mean you lack social skills and limit your circle of connections and therefore limit your own opportunities to ensure you are available to others.
Being socially pro-active means taking the initiative. It means starting conversations with strangers and once you get into the habit it will soon feel natural.
Asking For Help is an Extremely Humble Yet Sure-Fire Way of Getting Any Lady to Spend Some Time With You.
Most people like to help out others – it makes them feel good about themselves. A good way to start a conversation is by asking for help. It goes without saying that you are polite and courteous.
Every time you go to the store to pick up groceries, make yourself ask another shopper to help you with something – whether it is about which types of spices go into a curry or what toppings to use on a pizza.
A bonus to this practice is that markets are almost always full of women who are usually only too pleased to help out a guy in distress on ‘their’ territory. Again slipping in one or two subliminal ‘trigger words’ during the conversation will add value and subtle spice to the conversation.
Confidence is The Strong Magnet that Pulls All Sorts Of People toward Wanting To Know Better The Irresistibly Charming Man.
There is nothing that is more attractive to women than a confident man; indeed it is the most important subliminal messages a man (or a woman) can use. This is one of the best and easiest subliminal techniques to use.
When you enter a room, do it as if you are brimming over with confidence. It will feel fake, to start with, but you will soon get into the part. Be supremely confident and this will radiate like silent radio messages to everyone in the room. Under no circumstance should you let the façade slip. Be firm, decisive, and in-control. Never let even a hint of fear surface. Mastering your confidence will lead to mastering others.
Take Your Interactive And Social Skills to A Higher Level by Getting to Know New People Who Have Different Backgrounds And Interests From Yours.
Surrounding yourself with people who are from a similar background to you with similar interests will definitely impede your personal growth and therefore limit your social worthiness and value to others. After awhile, you will see that these types of people are too easy for you. It is time to move on.
After you are comfortable in this persona, next it is time to build on your new found confidence and challenge yourself to something more adventurous, to push yourself that bit further.
Embrace new situations and approach different types of people. Being socially desirable usually means that one has the ability to mix with all levels of people in society, from the woman in the supermarket to the chairman of the board.
Get Out of Your ‘Comfort Zone’ by Using ‘Trigger Words’ and Capture the Crowd Of Ladies With Your Adaptive Personality.
So next time you find yourself in a situation where you are out of your ‘comfort zone’, make the effort to open some conversations. You simply never know where they may lead, or whom they may lead you to. Use your new found skills of ‘trigger words’ and acting as if you ‘own the room’ you have just entered. Confidence breeds confidence and will open up all kinds of avenues you never dreamed would be possible.
Be creative and adapt to your surroundings in your approach but make sure that your subject is relevant to the life of the person you hope to be chatting with.
This chameleon-like behaviour is ideal for building your social reputation and is something you should aim to master to build upon your social worth.
You can Start Scoring A Handful Of Women by First Knowing Yourself and Acknowledging/Affirming All Your Positive And Likeable Qualities.
Going into a room of people where you don’t know anyone can be daunting. Your first instinct is to run, but you should resist and view this as a chance to extend your social circle and to meet new interesting people (maybe even a hottie or two). Strut your stuff even though you don’t feel like it and inside are a quivering mess. Exude confidence and every person in the place will want to be in your company.
Instead of heading straight for the snacks or the bar, go to the bathroom and assess yourself. You are well dressed, good-looking, and personable. Take some deep breaths, and know that you look good. This will boost your confidence and make you instantly more self-assured and calm.
Just Tell People You’re Interested To Know All Of Them (males and females alike) and They’ll Surely Be Interested In You Too.
If you learn only one strategy today then make sure this is it. Scan the room for a bunch of people of both sexes chatting and laughing. Take a deep breath or two and then approach the group decisively.
Don’t contrive any fake line, just be honest and say that you don’t know anyone in the room and you would like to be introduced to everyone in the circle. Make sure that your confident persona does not slip, and maintain eye contact when talking to the group. Glance from person to person, so they all feel included in your request and keep breathing regularly and deeply with a semi-smile on your face.
You will get instant kudos from these strangers (who will soon be your new friends) for being honest and having the guts to approach a bunch of strangers in what could have been an awkward and difficult social situation.
If you want to Make A Positive Impression On People, Give Positive Comments on Whatever Or Whoever Is Truly Commendable.
Positive remarks always make great icebreakers. If there’s an awkward silence in the beginning of a meeting, compliment one of the women on her sense of style.
If you’re strapped for conversation at a birthday party, make a remark about the stunning dress the birthday girl is wearing, or how the music makes you feel like dancing.
Make Use of Your Strong Senses (Particularly Your Sight) to Draw Other People’s Own Senses Toward You.
Especially with conversation starters, stay away from negative comments. Staying upbeat and positive will lead those in the group to see you as a friendly, easygoing individual and will want them to get to know you better.
These are all traits that will elevate your social standing very quickly. Also, pay attention to unique items that the people in the group may be wearing. They are always great subjects for conversation starters. Now is a great time to insert some subliminal trigger words – such as ’sensual’ as in “Those earrings are so sensual, they make me want to touch them.”
At Least One Of The People There Matches Your Interests; You Need to Be Courageous to Discover Who It Is.
Although starting a conversation with someone you do not know can be intimidating, try to remember that everyone in the room is feeling very much like you. There are very few natural ’social butterflies’ and most people have to really force themselves to be socially aware and to interact especially with strangers.
There is a strong chance that there is at least one person in the room who has similar interests to you and definitely has many things in common with you. The trick is to find that mutual thread and build upon it. Once you have mastered this skill, you will wonder why you were so worried about it in the first place.
Remembering People’s Names is One of The First Steps to Making A Good Impression On All Your Co-Workers.
Whatever your line of work, whether an office job or working part time, it is very important to know how to get along with your colleagues and coworkers.
A good start is by remembering people’s names, even if you don’t see them that often or work directly with them. Introduce yourself with a firm handshake and a huge smile to the other workers on your floor even if you don’t have anything work related to discuss.
Use simple tricks to remember peoples names if you are bad at it. For example, that woman named Elize. Think of something that will make you link something to that name such as “Easy Elize.”
A Smile and A Few Other Small Gestures could Bring You Better Relationships and More Opportunities In Work and Beyond.
Next comes a deceptively simple trick to quick popularity that is often overlooked, but being friendly and smiling a lot will boost your popularity rating fast and is a surefire way to get people to remember you, and to like you. Even if you don’t feel like smiling, make an effort. It will be well worth your while.
At meetings, make sure that you participate, even though you may be bored to tears. If a colleague is talking, look at them and nod occasionally, so they (and the others at the meeting) think you are fully engaged and being an attentive listener.
As ever, enforcing your vocal participation with body language confirms your interest. Opening your eyes wide whilst looking at the speaker indicates strong interest and support, especially in conjunction with nodding.
Narrowing your eyes and shaking your head suggests disbelief and disapproval. Showing interest in your colleagues’ ideas and taking an apparently active interest in their perspective will pay off later.
They will remember your support when it is your turn to give a presentation, or when you are telling a joke at the water fountain, and return the favor – at the very least.
Remember The Importance Of Friendships In Current Times; Never Underestimate The Good Things that Friends Could Bring Into Your Life.
If you are beginning to realize that you don’t have close friends anymore, then maybe it is time to assess your real values and priorities in life. Are you spending your time wisely and is your lifestyle getting you the quality of life you want?
Look at your schedule and make sure you allow adequate time for the people and things that are the most important to you in your life.
Recent studies have shown the sociological trend of people turning more and more to friends rather than to family, for support and mutual sharing.
This has lead to more and more people realizing that they need to widen their circle of friends and has raised the importance of keeping friendships alive and growing.